It might just be a blessing in disguise!

Hello once again, better late than never. (usually I post the blogs in the mornings)

It's been a pretty good few days. If you've read my blog "My 6 Days of Darkness," you know that I've had to accept a position that is less than inspiring. But, by taking my own advice and putting in motion the very thing a preach, I've come out on the other side completely amazed. 

So you've heard that people actually take time off to write, to where they go to some exotic or inspiring place to seek some sort of enlightenment or miracle from their work. 

Well not me. Not this lady.

I spent 7 months without working and by all accounts I was thrilled to have so much free time on my hands. But on the downside, I hardly wrote. For some reason my creative juices were not flowing. Everything felt forced. I have to write, I kept telling myself. So I would sit down, stare at a blank piece of paper and would write down something, anything, but nothing felt real. 

But since I started working, and have little time between school and work, I can't stop writing. The entire day all I do is think about my next novel; by the time I sit down to write every single word comes pouring out without any need to force them out.  

So of course, I wondered why that was. 

Well, I think for me it has to do with the amount of distraction that I engaged in on daily basis. Yes of course I am busy at work and have your usual distractions, but for the most part is just me and my music. No internet, no Facebook, no Twitter. 

In a way it's like I'm in a constant state of meditation. So just like I always do, I'll encourage you to get quiet, to have those moments of silence with just you and God. Miracles can come out of those times. Amazing creative projects can come out of moments like those. 

Because I'm so completely happy with the fact that I am writing again and that all was not lost, I want to give thanks for the position I thought was going to kill my spirit, and subsequently my creativity, because it has done the complete opposite, it has brought it back to life.

The next time you find yourself in complete chaos and disarray over a decision you've had to make, hold your horses before you go crazy and think all is lost, as the saying goes, it might just be a blessing in disguise. 

                    

My blessing was the gift of writing again, and I'm grateful for that, no matter what it was wrapped in.

Till Next Time!

Lights, Camera, ACTION!

So funny how things happen, the other day I had a "duh" moment. Let me explain. 

Although I still believe in everything I’ve written before, like if you want to change your life, you must change the way you think.  There is one very important thing that MUST go along with this way of thinking, and I'll explain in the next paragraphs.

I woke up last Wednesday and I was jolted into facing something that has been frustrating me. So many of us have been told to use affirmations as a way of obtaining our hearts desires or to use affirmations to change our state of mind.  

However, I am here to say that affirmations themselves do not work. You want to know what works? ACTION! That’s what works. I of course am not the first and only person to say this. I’ve heard Tony Robins say countless times, “you can say there no weeds, there are no weeds, but the reality is that there are weeds and you need to find a way of removing them.” Same concept applies to your life and whatever issues you may be facing.

Do not look out onto the world and wonder why “they” have what you want. Don’t think of them as the lucky ones. I promise you the reason they have what they have, is because they took action to ensure they would HAVE IT!

While we are sitting at home affirming, meditating, reading blogs such as mine, those people have put a plan into action and they are working toward it for hours on end.

Don't misunderstand, staying encouraged, meditating, praying and surrounding yourself with positive uplifting people are all great things to do. But none of these things alone will get you to the life you want to live. These things will make for a happier and more peaceful you, but no closer to getting the thing you want.

Simply, if you want something, you MUST TAKE ACTION, or I assure you, your situation will NEVER CHANGE. You will never live that life you are seeking. So start now. Take action in whatever area of your life you want the biggest change to take place and take action to make sure the change happens.

Till Next Time

My 6 Days of Darkness!

The other day I acted, or rather did something I had never done before. I acted completely out of character.

Let me explain, I consider myself a pretty level headed person. I never say anything I don't mean, I never lose control, I never get so angry to the point that I lose common sense. I never get so upset that I make huge mistakes and then have to regret it later. In fact, I have never done what I did last week.

6 days! That's how long it took for me to get over behaving and feeling like a totally insane person. But you know what, it had to happen! I needed that to happen because it helped in clearing up certain things.

So you're probably wondering what the heck I'm talking about right? Well as much as I don't want to share, I feel I have to.

Ok, so since making this big life change of learning how to always be in a positive state of mind, and thinking positive and visualizing, and meditating, and learning, and listening, and reading about anything AND everything that can encourage me AND others, I CRASHED BIG TIME.

Everything in my life is perfect, everything expect my career! Which is funny because that is the one thing I put all of my law of attraction focus on.  What I want more than anything is for my career to just be. For me to wake up every morning and work my butt off just doing something that will make me happy, subsequently making others happy, therefore, making the world a better place. Is that so hard? 

I have recently had to accept a position doing a job I swore I would never do again. A job I swore killed my soul little by little. And this decision tore me up so badly that for 6 days I reacted so drastically that I did the following;

I threw away all my journals

I threw away a script

I unsubscribed to every single positive teacher I was following

I deleted all my social apps from my phone (Twitter, FB, Blog, Goodreads)

I decided to give up and not believe in anything

I decided to give up and not write ever again

I cried and felt sorry for myself for 6 days!

But then CLARITY!

Although it appeared as though something had died, it was the complete opposite, something came back to life. For a year and a half although I believed, followed, wrote about, and talked about this life change, a small part of me wondered if I truly was this new person I claimed to be. Was I really positive Pollyanna? Did I really believe what I was selling? And after my meltdown the answer is YES! 

Although I didn't admit it to anyone, at the time of my meltdown I was so afraid of losing the person I had become, that I could bare it no longer and I had to come up for air. I needed to read, write, or listen to something that inspired me. I wanted to inspire you. I don't want to give up. I want to keep going no matter how long it takes to fulfill my dreams. I rather have a life of dreaming, of hoping that some day it will happen for me than live a life of misery by haven given up on everything that makes me happy. AHHHH. I really do feel like I can breathe again. Some of you may think that giving up is easy, but I'm telling you that having that attitude was not only so hard, but also heart breaking. I felt afraid of losing the new person I had become, the new person I learned to love and admire. I was afraid of what would happen now that I let go of my dreams, who was I to become now? No, not worth it. I had to come back. I had to stay strong; it was/is the only way for me. Not only was I not willing to let go of this new person I had become, but I was not about to lay to rest my dream of working in the entertainment industry--which is what I've wanted since I was a little girl. 

I simply share this because I need to be honest with those who read my blog. I'm not perfect. I get scared, I doubt, and I fall, but most importantly I get up again. And that's what you must do too. Doubt, fall, cry, but never—never give up!

One more thing. I have to give a great big thanks to my hubby for not giving up on me through my 6 days of darkness. He kept reminding me of who I was and what I wanted and he vowed to never let me give up--no matter what I was saying on the outside!

Till next time!

Happiness is always an inside job!

Recently I've really been exploring the idea that happiness lies within you, and not outside of you.

But, I have a tendency of living in the "when I have ________ then I'll be happy," or "when I'm able to do ______ that will be awesome and I will be so happy." However, I'm finally starting to get it!

Have you ever been so excited for something, and then, once you get it you're kinda like, eh.... It's almost as if the feeling or excitement of getting it was better than actually getting what you wanted.

Well, according to the experts the reason why is because whenever we want "something," what we are actually in search of is the FEELING that comes with it, not the actual "thing" we think we want.  This makes it easy to see why they say that happiness lies within you and not outside of you.  Nothing outside of you can actually provide you with any happiness, it is the feeling that you have which determines whether or not you will be happy. 

So try it out. Think about something that you really want, and try to see what kinds of feelings you get. And then, see if you can get to a place where it "feels" like you already have it. See if your mood changes, if you're suddenly optimistic or excited just as you would be if you had "it." According to the experts, by doing this you activate some sort of power that will bring whatever it is that you want into your life.

However, the amazing thing about this transformation will be that although you obtained the very thing you wanted, you have a clear understanding that this "thing" was not what made you happy, but rather that happiness is state of mind that you can obtain at any time in your life. 

Most importantly don't give the power of happiness to any one thing; not money, not materialistic things, not even another person--is not fair to them.  Simply try to get to the bottom of why you want what you want, and then try to see what it is that you're feeling when you think about it. And there it will be. That's where you will find what you really want! You will see that it all boils down to you wanting to feel a certain way.

Till Next Time!

Chip away until you find the real you!

So I guess I am a Michelangelo fan. Have you ever seen this quote? 

I love it! This is exactly how you and I are. We are angels in the marble waiting to be released into this thing we call our life. 

How to do you chip away all the "stuff?" By clearing up all your limited beliefs. 

I have come across a lot of people who simply tell me they don't know what they want to do in life, or rather they don't know what they want to be when they grow up. I happen to disagree with these people. I believe they do know, but somehow they are blocking their true self from coming to the surface because of their own fears and their limited beliefs. Perhaps the following excuses played a part in the block they've created, maybe money was an issue, or perhaps fear of disappointing a parent, or just the mere fact that they got distracted with life and now they think is too late. All of these reasons will prevent a person from being honest with themselves. Sometimes is easier to say "I don't know" than to say I gave up.

I'm here to remind you that it is never too late. First, get clear about you want. Second, find out what your limited belief is about what you want. Replace every negative belief with a positive one. 

For example:

If your excuse for not working in your field of choice is, "I'm too old" replace that with I have knowledge and I was born to this. 

Another excuse may be, "I'm not good enough," then replace it with I am smart and I can accomplish anything in my life. 

At first it may seem like lies, you may even laugh at your "lies." Your mind may tell you to stop being silly and then start contradicting every single thought you have. And it may even offer examples of how you are not the person you now say you are. But trust me, keep at it, one thought at time will change your life. 

This is how you start chipping away until the marble is clear and the you that is supposed to be roaming this earth comes out to play. 

I hope you have a wonderful year and that you make all your dreams come true. 

Till next time my friends. 

Empty promises be gone! HAPPY NEW YEAR!

As many of us approach the end of the year, we will close it out by making our New Year's resolutions. 

You're excited for the new beginning and a clean slate, this is how most of us view January 1st. You have plans that include everything you want or hope to be in the coming year. BUT THEN, as days pass by that fire starts to burn out and you're left, yet again, with nothing but empty promises. 

This setting of goals and not achieving them, or even following through with them a week into setting them, starts you on a downward spiral. But enough is enough right? It doesn't have to be this way, you don't have to  live year after year with guilt over not fulfilling the goals and desires you set for yourself. 

Instead of putting your wants and desires into a box called "New Year's Resolution" and then putting the box away a week after January 1st because you messed up by missing a day at the gym, lets not put it into a box. There are things you want to accomplish in your life, not just this year, so lets take the "year" out of the equation. Lets just focus on the things that you want out of life. Be healthier, learn another language, travel..whatever it is. Just look at the big picture. 

Now that you have that image in your head think about the steps that you will take to get there. No matter how long it takes you. No pressure, just focus on one day a time, and by doing this you will arrive at your ultimate destination.  However, it is imperative that you stop the cycle of saying you're going to do something and NOT DOING IT. If nothing else, you must DO WHAT YOU SAY. When you constantly break promises to yourself, you are creating habits that then become the person you are. The challenge I have for you is this. 

No matter what your goals are, even if it's just one small thing you want to do or have, if you say you're going to take steps 1, 2 and 3 to get there, then do steps 1, 2 and 3. It's as simple as following through. So go for it, and when you'e setting your goals and the steps you will take to achieve them keep in mind Michelangelo's quote:  "The greater danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that is too low and we reach it."

Have a wonderful new year my friends till next time.

It's not WHAT you do, its WHY you do it!

"It's not what you do is why you do it" is what the CEO of Starbucks told Oprah on Supersoul Sunday and it stayed with me. In others words, it's all about intentions! 

When you decide that you want something, do you ever stop to consider why you want it. Perhaps the answer to this question will add fuel to your desire. Or perhaps, it will make it disappear altogether.

So taking the advice of the experts, I asked myself the following questions:

What Do I Want?
Why Do I Want It?

The answer to what I want wasn't that foreign to me, that one was easy. But the answer to why I wanted those things kind of shocked me at first.

The ego, that part of you that dictates your life and makes you feel in competition with the world, that part of you that says you 're not good enough is the one that provided the initial answer to me.

It told me the reason I wanted what I want is so that I can be acknowledged by my peers, because I'm not good enough to stand on my on opinion of myself.

But when I dug deeper and shut the ego out, and got to the core of who I really am, the truth then emerged. 

The reason I want what I want is so that I can change lives. I want to impact your life in a positive way. I want my audience to feel happy as often as possible. I want everyone to fully live their life. I want everyone to accomplish their hearts desire. I want everyone to live a purpose driven life. I want everyone to care and be kind to one another. And not so that I can feel better or acknowledged, but so that you can feel better and be happy.

But, If I hadn't taken the time to dig deeper to find out the real reason why I want what I want, then I might have been crushed by my ego's response by suggesting that I was shallow. Your ego will tell you many things, but they are not always true. 

If you are contemplating a huge change in your life, or you are trying to reach a new goal, ask yourself those two questions and I'm sure it will set you in the right direction. However, pay attention to who is providing the answer. If it's your ego, then ask again, dig deeper, and your answer will be drastically different.

Till next time :)