Saturday, August 24, 2013

Imagine your beliefs guaranty you can never get to where you want to go!

This one is going to be a short one. I just want to say one thing, Tony Robbins is a genius! He posed the question, Imagine your beliefs guaranty you can never get to where you want to go.

Let me put it this way; let us say for a second that you really want to win the lotto.
But you also have the belief that if you win the lotto something awful is bound to happen to your family. And of course you don’t want this. 

Well your belief that something awful is going to happen is so true to you and so devastating that no matter how many times you play the lotto you WILL NEVER WIN.

Let me give you another example: (for those of you who have the odds of winning the lotto already calculated in your head)

Let’s say you want to lose weight but you have a belief that when you lose weight your marriage will fall apart. And of course you don’t want this.

Your belief that if you lose weight it will destroy your marriage is so scary, you pretty much can guaranty that you will fail at any attempt at losing weight...

I could go on, but I think you get the point.

So I’m just here to remind you to pay attention to the things you want and the beliefs you have about them because those “beliefs” may be the reason you haven’t achieved them yet. And, if those beliefs don't serve you in any way, or move in the direction you want to go, then change them! 

Wednesday, August 14, 2013


After a full year of visualizing myself working in a field that I truly enjoy, it finally came true.  A year ago I listened to "The Secret" and it immediately transformed my life. I blogged about it previously- see:

So, up to a month and half ago I was working for insurance agency where I worked for 7 years, and I hated it, but after listening to the Secret and many other teachers, I realized that I was in control of my life and I took charge.
And boy did it pay off!  In the last year I've become the person I've always wanted to be. I feel better than I've ever felt, I'm healthy, I have a positive outlook on life, and now I'm on my way to having the career I so longed to have.  This is only the beginning. I have so many awesome plans, so many fun and interesting things I want to do that I can hardly contain my excitement.

If you want to change here are few things to consider. 

1. Be the change you want to see. Don't wait for the world to change, it most likely will never happen. However,  the great thing is that when you start looking at the world around you differently the world around you changes. So, change within, every little change will move you into a new and fabulous world/life.

2. Surround yourself with only things that bring you good feelings, in other words avoid things that stress you out. For me, it was the news. I haven't watched the news in a year. I used to watch it every day, three times a day, one of those being right before going to bed.  Not good, don't do it. 

3. Visualize!. Picture yourself being that person you want to be, act as if you are that person and before long you will be that person. 

4. Be grateful for what you do have. Every day when you wake up, before doing anything grab your journal and write down all the things you're grateful for. Aside from my health and my family, I always give thanks for my hands. Yeah my hands, they allow me to write. For my brain for it allows me to think and so on.

Anyway, these are just a few things I did that helped in gradually getting me to where I am today, which is radically different from who and where I was last year. 
Hope this helps you!

Friday, August 9, 2013

Are you a projector?

Are you a projector?

Well not in the way shown above, I mean in the way of projecting your issues onto others? I am so guilty of this. 
People. Please. Don't. Do. This. The other day I noticed I was a big offender of this behavior. Something pretty awesome happened; I got really good news from someone and then I started giving them irrelevant life advice.
Let me give you an example.  Let's say... you're single and hating it and a friend of yours (also single, but happy) comes to you and say's guess what friend? I just got a great job that pays a lot of money, I will be traveling and I will finally be doing just what I've always wanted to do. The correct response from you should be, Oh My God Becky I'm so happy for you, congratulations  (valley-girl voice).
The INCORRECT response would be. Becky that's great BUT, what about a relationship, I mean you know you have to think about what's really important in life, and that's love.
Ugh, that's projecting people!!! I tend to do that a lot. So, to all those who have been a victim of my madness I apologize. My issues are not yours. 

  1. If I want to get healthy, I assume everyone wants to too and  I shove health literature down their throat. 
  2. If I want to be all spiritual, I assume everyone must have a need for it too.
  3. And one that I've done often...just because I was unhappy with my job, didn't mean everyone in the world was too. 

So remember to just be a good friend and a good listener.