Successful and Unsuccessful People!

I heard something pretty cool today from Brian Tracy, he said one of the most important things you must have in order to get what you want is to have CLARITY….

He said and I quote, “If you don’t have clear specific goals, you are doomed to work for people that do”. Amazing right!

 So simple, but yet so complicated. I know that deciding what you want is hard, because I was there. For years I was focused on the past and on all the things I didn’t do, AND blaming those events for the things I didn’t currently have. 

Imagine this for a moment. Imagine you’re hungry, but you don’t know what to eat, well you can go to a restaurant and mull over the options a thousand times, but this won’t bring the food to you any sooner. It’s not until you decide on what you want to eat that it eventually comes to you. 

The same is true of anything and everything in your life. But I will speak from a career perspective only since this has been MY struggle, therefore, I can only speak of such.

Brian Tracy also said that he’s studied thousands of successful and unsuccessful people, and he found the following in common.  All SUCCESSFUL people know what they want and ALL UNSUCCESSFUL people are just wandering through life.  Deciding what you want is one of the most important things you can do. So think about it….

It’s really not that hard once you’ve set aside all the obstacles that you’ve created, I’m too old, I need stability, it’s too hard, it’s too far! If you don’t allow any of those thoughts to creep in, if you could just do what you want without any “BUT’S” what would you do… easier now right.  And there it is! Do that!

I’ll leave you with another amazing quote, but this one’s from Tony Robbins, “The only thing that prevents you from getting what you want, is the story that you tell about why you can’t get it”.

Go live!

Disney Half Marathon!

Wow, I don't like that it has been over two weeks since my last post. Commit woman! (little voice yelling). For my own gratification I must blog at least once a week.

Ok, so I've entered into another adventure, still going on the "radical change" blog entry.  

Ready for it....

I am running the Disney Half Marathon in February!  (Applause)

I know, it's a huge deal and challenge but I'm up for it. I started training already. I downloaded a great app, C25K app (couch to 5k app) and it's awesome.

But not gonna lie, this is hard!

Right now, I'm only walking, my knees hurt when I run to the point of not being able to walk. But still I will conquer this.

I know it's weird how something that so many people do without giving it a second thought has become this radical life changing goal for me, but it has. Every time I see people running/jogging I long to be like them. Observing from a distance as if that was something only others could have but not me. So silly right!

So yeah, I know it’s a challenge to go from never running to running a half marathon, but I know that when I accomplish this, it will feel amazing knowing that the sky is the limit. (I kinda already know this but still, you get the point)

So what will you do? What is that one thing that you see others do while you sit back wishing you could do it? Wishing you had the courage to do it?

You got it? Ok. Now go do it. Go get it.

Again, since I'm trying new and different things, here's a pic of me on my first day of training. Hope I'm just as a happy in a month. Till next time :)

Eating lunch alone woohoo!

Talk about a radical change...

Ever since I was little I've never been able to do things by myself. I guess it's because I've never really been alone. I've always had someone with me.

This has created problems for me when it comes down to doing things alone. For example, in high school when my friends wouldn't go to school, at lunch time, I would just skip lunch all together. I would not dare sit alone.

This carried on into adult hood, literally yesterday!

So yesterday, at work, I had to take lunch on my own without my 5 close friends.  Typically, in the past when I've had to do this, I would simply go through drive-thru, sit in my car and listen to the radio. But not yesterday, no sir ree bob.


Yesterday  I went to subway, I love subway...

and instead of taking my food to the car, like am I accustomed to, I sat outside and ate all by myself, woohoo!


I know, I know, you may be thinking what's the big deal. The big deal is that these things are all new to me, and even as small a change as they may seem, it's still a change, and therefore a different outcome is inevitable.

Not only did I sit by myself, which is huge in itself, but because I knew I had to blog about the experience, I wanted to take pictures.

So there I was, surrounded by people, and I started to take pictures of myself, and I didn't care what they thought about me. I didn't care if they thought I was weird. In fact, I kept thinking, they are probably intrigued by me, they must be wondering what are all the pics for (more than likely no one noticed lol). But that's what's great, no one cares! People are too self absorbed in their own insecurities to be worrying about yours. And when you realize this, you will have freedom!


Needless to say, on my way back to work, I felt amazing because I had accomplished something huge for me.

So here are a couple of pics from my adventure, eating lunch alone.

Imagine how amazing your life could be if you just did whatever it is that you've been wanting to do. How would this change impact your life and the lives of others.  In the words of John Lennon, Imagine.. Take a listen to this rendition by ACE..Imagine

Radical Change!

I’ve heard it said a hundred times, “if you want to see different results in your life, then you must change the things that you do.” The kicker is that every time I hear this message, I sit by,  agreeing with these powerful words.

But I've been fooling myself by thinking that just because I “hear it” I’m making the change they speak of.

So it finally hit me, if I WANT TO SEE A CHANGE, I mean a REALLY BIG CHANGE IN MY LIFE,THEN I MUST MAKE A RADICAL CHANGE IN MY LIFE….And the same goes for you!

I suggest you start off by doing something completely out of your comfort zone. For example, I’ve said in the past how I had a fear of speaking in public or that I didn’t like being in front of a camera (I’m not that person anymore, hence the past tense). But these thoughts didn’t align with the things I wanted in life.  I’m a writer, I want people to read my books,I want to make movies, I want to win awards… how could I possibly do these things if I continued staying in my shell. My life was not going to change by watching others do the very thing I wanted to do. Ugh, so much time wasted.

That’s why I’m coming to you, so that you don’t waste another minute. I don’t care what it is… If you want a new job, then looking through the classifieds, but not applying won’t get you hired. If you want to get in shape but all you’re doing is “watching” the weight loss shows on TV (guilty) then your body won’t change.

So I encourage you to do 7 new things each day, something that’s going to get you closer to your goal. And out of the 7, make one of them a RADICAL change, something completely out of the norm. For you, the person who’s dying to be in shape, you may want to skip your favorite TV show and go for a walk instead of sitting on the couch. Just by doing this you’re making something shift in yourself. And before you know it, this will be the new you.  

I started out with something that “made me” totally uncomfortable (again I’m using past tense because I am not that person anymore). So, I did a PHOTO SHOOT!!! I know. Some of you may think What?? That’s not hard!!!But I promise you, it was for me.  And that’s the beauty of being a human being; we are all unique, with different fears, wants and desires.

So are you ready?? Or rather, am I ready to share with the world; to put myself out there regardless of others thoughts about me? The answer is yes!  Because I want my career, more than I want to be worried about others opinions of me. So here are a few pics from my 

photo shoot. :)

   

My next RADICAL change will be video taping myself reading my novel More Than Words Can Say. Till next time :)

Say yes!

So I love that when I'm having a bad day, I am somehow, magically guided to listen to something that completely turns my mood around. 

Thank God! It feels yucky to be in a bad mood.

Anyway, so I was introduced to Les Brown today (via YouTube lol) and he said so many amazing things that I am basically going to kinda-sorta quote, but if you want, you can listen for yourself.

Les Brown- you Deserve The Best In Life! I enjoyed his message very much and I hope you listen to it too, or at least be inspired in some way by this post. 

Ok, so first he said that the majority of heart attacks happen on Monday mornings between the hours of 8am and 9am. 

What!!! These heart attacks are happening when people are getting ready for work. This blows my mind! Like seriously!! This is terrible.  He said that when you don't do what you were meant to do, and/or love, you are committing spiritual suicide...

Then he said something that I absolutely loved but made me sad. He said the riches place in the world is at a graveyard.

Why you ask? Let me tell you. Most people die with never living their dream. So it is there, in a graveyard, where you will find inventions that were never told to the world. 

And I will add... There you will find a song that was never written, and the words that were never spoken that could have CHANGED the world. 

Please, please, please don't let your dreams--your desires live only in a graveyard. 

Live your life to your fullest potential. Live, live, live!!! Remember that you can really do anything you want. Say yes to every opportunity that presents itself to you because you never know where it will lead you. So open that store! Get that degree! Go for that job you've always wanted! Say yes!

Love ya'll. Have a great life! 

Here's a great song.... Mariah Carey ft Whitney Houston When You Believe 

Memories!

I had a really great weekend, but I really didn't realize how great of a weekend I had until it was over. Let me explain...

I had my parents over for the weekend, and although I had a good time with them, they do tend to drive me a little crazy. And by crazy I mean, she's almost 80 and he's 87 years old so they tend to talk over each and they don't understand half the things I'm saying. But man are they AWESOME. I am truly blessed by having these two as my mommy and daddy.

Anyways, I gladly gave up our bed for them to sleep on, but for hours they insisted that we take our bed and that they would sleep on the floor--as if!

Anyhow, I wanted them to sleep on new bed sheets, so before they came over I went and bought some. And tonight, when I was getting ready for bed I looked at the sheets and I smiled thinking back to last night when they were getting ready for bed. They were so cute looking through their bags for a change of clothes and their toothbrush and doing their normal routine!

That's when I realized what a special memory I had just created. I realized how special this precious time with my parents was and how I was always going to remember this weekend.

So it got me thinking


What if we all lived our lives this way? Realizing how special EACH and EVERY moment we have is. Instead of realizing it after it's happened and gone. How much better would our days be, really appreciating the little things as much as big things. Because truly you never really know which are the things that are going to turn into the big events of your lives.

How many times have you started your day thinking it was just an ordinary day, and then days, months, or even years later that day is permanently fixed in your brain as either the best or worse day of your life.

My wish for all of us is that we take everyday we have on this earth as if it were our first or our last, whichever works for you. Enjoy every single minute, live IN THE MOMENT, not the past or the future.

Go create awesome memories my friends. Til next time. and of course here's a song!
My Wish- Rascal Flatts

The Man in The Mirror

So it is Sunday night and I am not feeling so great...

But still, I must find the strength to write a little something for those of you who have been anxiously awaiting my next post.

So I've been listening, watching and reading a lot of inspirational material, the kind of stuff that just takes you to a different place in life. This "place" is one where you learn that if you want to change the world you have to start with you. 

I know it sounds a bit cliché but it's true. You ARE the change you want to see in the people.  I challenge you! I challenge you that for this week you stop trying to change the things and/or people around you. The only change you need to make is in you. Change your perspective. If you are only seeing annoying things in others, remember, that this is only happening because this is what you're choosing to see. If you make a decision to only see the good in people, in those who annoy you, I promise that good is all you'll see. In return, your day will be more pleasant, your attitude will be better and your Monday won't suck. 

I will leave you with an awesome song as a reminder of the change you/we/us should be making. Michael Jackson Man in The Mirror